I’m just praying history isn’t about to repeat itself.
And above all, watch with glittering eyes the whole world around you because the greatest secrets are always hidden in the most unlikely places. Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.
Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask and he will tell you the truth.
Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
I’ll come out and say it.
This year I realized I have this horrible habit. This habit of giving up on relationships in my life. I don’t fix the issue, I find someone else. I’m not even talking about just romantic relationships but relationships of all varieties. Part of it is I get tired of being the only one making the effort, but part of it comes from being scarred by those that have come before.
There are people who come into our lives who set the mold for the rest. I will always lose a good girl friend to a guy. I will always have the friend that abandons me because they think I’ve changed. I will always find a mother figure. I will always find these people or perhaps the problem attracts the temporary solution?
I don’t believe I’m the only one who does this, but being aware of it makes me more careful to not make the same mistakes. The way to fix the problem is go to the original person and make things right, if possible.
There for a long time was a mold of a guy who was lying to me, cheating on me, or in general treating me with much less respect than I deserved. It could be argued this is just guys in general, but there are exceptions so it can’t be true.
I have to accept that people are relationships, not molds. The only common factor is yourself.
There have been successes. There are friends who have stuck around throughout the years. And after all the guys, there has come one who’s been absolutely amazing. I’m not saying it’s perfect, perfection is quite boring. I met him quite literally running away from the one who broke my heart, into a place where my heart had been broken before. Talk about a hopeless place.
But he stepped up to the challenge and…a guy who will come to your philanthropy at 3am in a tuxedo, just when you’re thinking he’s like the last guy who never showed up. A guy who will hold as you get sick, a guy who push your cart while you grocery shop, a guy who still months later, opens every door for you and when you are passed out, possibly intoxicated on the floor of your bathroom and he thinks you’re asleep he gives you a kiss on the forehead….I’d say he was worth all the bad ones before him.
I have never agreed with a statement more my entire life:
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”